Monday, March 27, 2006

Good Book: “The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio”

“The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio, How My Mother Raised 10 Kids on 25 Words or Less,” by Terry Ryan, is not only a great book for writers, it’s a great book for anyone.*

It’s the amazing story of Evelyn Ryan, a 1950’s mother of 10, who supplemented the family’s meager income ($90 a week from her alcoholic husband) by entering and winning the many write-in contests they used to hold back then. Things like, “Finish the last line of this poem:"

The time of your life, you can win
With Dr Pepper, the flavor that’s in.
It’s distinctive and bright
It’s lively and light
There’s no time like NOW to begin! (Evelyn’s line)

Evelyn would enter these contests – and win them – constantly! She’d send in multiple entries using every possible form of her own name and sometimes her kids’ names, too. Once her 16-year old son got a phone call from some big company telling him he’d just won a brand new bike.

She also wrote little poems for the local newspaper, for which she was paid a dollar or two. But can you imagine raising 10 kids (all of whom wore glasses) on that? And of course, something was always breaking – like the dryer. She’d win an appliance and six months later it would be worn out from all the use.

But Evelyn never seemed to wear out. In fact, she lived to age 85. (Her daughter, Terry, the author and a writer herself, found all her mom’s notebooks in a trunk, which prompted her to write this book.) Terry says she never once remembers her mother sitting down at a family meal. The kids ate in shifts, the oldest five in the dining room, the youngest in the kitchen.

Anyway, this book is a great read from many perspectives – growing up in the ‘50s, living in a big family, etc. -- but if you’re a writer, it’s especially inspirational. Talk about dedication, this woman was a writing machine. Indomitable, industrious, tenacious, she never gave up. She'd just stand at her ironing board with a spiral notebook at her side, writing and writing -- and entering and winning -- hundreds of contests held by companies like Beechnut Gum, JC Penny, and Burma Shave.

Quite frankly, I don’t know how some of her entries won, they seem so bad by today’s standards. But the incredible thing is how often she did win and how she just kept at it and at it, day after day, year after year, the whole time her kids were growing up. And how often she miraculously came up with a win just in the nick of time!

Here’s another typical entry where she had to write the last line of a something a company had started (their lines are in bold; Evelyn’s are in italics.)

People who like people sometimes fail, wooing—
They fail to use Dial before billing and cooing
.

And here’s one of her poems:

But Excuse Us

Folks endowed with
Luck, or virtue,
Get the tissue
To the kerchoo.

Anyway, if you want to read a good story about a writer, get this book—I found it randomly at the library.

*I just heard from my daugher that there was a movie made from it -- same title -- in 2005; I have no idea what it was like (Julianne Moore starred in it) but I must rent it.

Thursday, March 16, 2006

In your dreams.

Thursday, March 16, 4 a.m.
As a follow-up to my vacation posting, let me just add that whenever I’m under a lost of stress like that, it almost always comes out in my dreams. Just now, I woke up from this: I was at a big PR party and my client had won top honors at some event. But they needed a document I had brought with me in the pocket of my coat. So I had to sort through the piles of coats to find mine and retrieve this piece of paper. When I finally come up with it, my client was so happy he kissed me!

Now, my dreams are never far-out crazy, they’re always pretty normal. So much so, in fact, that I sometimes have to stop and think: Was a dream or did it really happen? And the symbolism is so obvious it’s ridiculous!

In this case, I had been packing the night before and trying to decide what coat to bring with me. And the (real) awards project I had been working on was put on hold, but only after I had 3 hours into it and had printed out 75 pages of backup material!

So, it doesn’t take a whole lot of psychological digging to interpret my dreams. I just think it’s kind of interesting how your mind deals with stress.

By the way, I did get all my jobs done (and then some), and now I cannot WAIT to get on that plane at 6:00 p.m. Adios.

Monday, March 13, 2006

Going on vacation

Remember last time when I was blathering on about all the things I love about my job?
Well, here’s the flip side. It’s Sunday night (March 12) and I’m exhausted. I worked from 8:30 to 2:00 today because on Thursday we’re leaving for a 9-day vacation in northern California, which we really need.

It’s now 8:50 p.m. and I still have to drive my mother home. (She comes for dinner almost every week and at the moment is watching the tail end of a Pistons game.) It’s a 36-mile round trip and I’m sure I’ll have to hear her ask 20 more times why I have to go so far away. “Why can’t you just go to Grand Haven?” she always says.

Before we leave, I have to:

Get all my jobs done:

  • Put together the client PR award entry for the American Business Awards (6 hours at least). This is a job I took to help out a colleague who assisted me in the same position a few months ago. Paybacks are indeed a bitch.
  • Write up and send in Week 8 updates for TBN testimonials (10 people).
  • Interview same 10 people for Week 9 & 10 updates.
  • Transcribe tape, write up and send in above testimonials (due when I’m gone).
  • Follow up on HCI bio.
  • Get revised copy to Mark for TQ ads.
  • F/U with new client about interviewing one of her clients before I leave for an ad they need when I return.
  • Write story on Russia and turn in.
  • F/U with contact on new RB story, due 4/4.
  • Send D. a list of ideas for “reinvigorating” RB website.
  • Email same editor one story and 2 new story ideas, all of which, praise Jesus, I have done.
  • Write up/send in 2 new weight loss testimonials and/or tell J that we don’t have photos for the 3/31 testimonials and ask her to extend deadline.
  • Email travel editor at GRP and ask her if she might be interested in a story on northern California. (Fat chance)
  • Post my blog (this) which I try to do every Monday come hell or high water.
  • Deal with the 49 emails sitting in my inbox.
  • Make plane reservations for my 4/8 California trip (for work).

Get ready for the trip:

  • Take all the pictures off the walls and move furniture for the painter who’s going to be here while we’re gone.
  • Pack, cancel mail, paper, etc. etc.
  • Make hotel reservations for at least part of our trip.
  • Let nephew Tim know we will be staying with him Sat. night for sure.

Jesus, Mary and holy St. Joseph, get me thru this without having a heart failure. (I was having panic attacks trying to get to sleep last night.)

On Monday night we’re supposed to go to a family birthday celebration and on Tues. night to a friend's house for freshly caught grouper, flash frozen and flown home from Bahamas. (The timing's not great, but how could we resist?!)

Can I do it? Yes, I can do it. But at what price? It’s like Brenna says, “Sometimes you have to work so hard to go on vacation, it’s almost not worth it.” That’s kind of where I am right now.

And then you get home and you have to jump right back in without skipping a beat because unlike working at a company, nobody takes your calls when you’re gone. Nobody pays you for the time off, either, and nobody really understands why you’re so stressed out before and after you go.

It’s not always like this when we try to get away -- I'm unbelievably busy right now -- but you never know. That’s just the nature of the game.

Regardless, I have to admit I’m always glad when I finally do get on a plane. But then, within a week of coming home, you’re so immersed in work again that you’ve forgotten you were even gone!

I don’t know, maybe B’s right. Is it worth it?

Monday, March 06, 2006

Things I love about my job.

This morning (Feb. 28) there was a beautiful sunrise at about 6:30 – yellows, reds, purples, pinks. You could tell it was going to be a gorgeous day. I said to Art, “I’d love to go skiing this morning before work…”

The more I thought about it – and the higher the sun rose – the more I wanted to do it. It was only about 15 degrees out, but perfect cross country ski conditions – a couple inches of snow, no wind, brisk, and bright.

So I came down to my office, wrote a few emails, made some phone calls, got on my skis and headed out the door. By 8:00 I was standing in the sunshine looking around the lake. It was heaven.

That experience signifies for me the two main things I love about my job: 1) I get to work from home, and 2) I’m on my own schedule. If I want to start work at 6:00 a.m. and quit at 2:00, I do. In fact, today at 4:00, we’re meeting some friends down at the B.O.B. for a Fat Tuesday party. When things like that come up, I don’t have to ask my boss if it’s ok. I just have to ask myself – and it almost always is.

I get to work with a lot of fun, interesting people. Advertising people are some of the most fun people around. They’re smart, they’re funny, they’re quick, they’re creative. Working with people who make me laugh is something I value a lot. In fact, what I missed most when I started freelancing were my fellow creatives at the ad agency.

I get to learn about some interesting things. People assume that working on newsletters is boring, but I learn all kinds of things writing them. Here’s one example: I was interviewing some guys about a men’s choir they were in – the oldest continuously run male choir in the U.S. So I was telling Art about it later, and I said, “This sounds like something you’d like—you should check it out.” Well, he did, and he’s been with the Schubert Male Chorus – and loving it – ever since.

I get to interview some fascinating people, some of whom I would probably never in a million years get to know otherwise: ex-prisoners, hot shot designers, CEOs, people with various disabilities, scientists, artists, etc. The most interesting character I ever interviewed was a guy named Ivan Jenson (for the Goodwill newsletter.) Check him out on the web sometime at www.ivanjenson.com. Incredible story. But more about that later.

I get to write every day. I love the process of writing – taking a bunch of “stuff” and turning it into something that’s readable and good. It’s fun and it’s a challenge, and I get to do it every single day.

I earn a decent income. I average about $56,000 a year, which is not bad for 25 hours a week and a couple of vacations thrown in along the way.

I get to travel a lot. I’ve been to Hawaii, New York, Washington State, Idaho, Florida, West Virginia, and California, all on assignments that were completely paid for. I love seeing new places, and my job has shown me many.

All in all, I’d say the things I love about my job can be alliteratively summarized in three words: freedom, flexibility and fun. Now how many people around do you know who can say that?